A MAN has married his mother to appease his ancestors, it has been reported.
Buti Mphethi (28) married his mother so that she could be accepted into the Mphethi family. They are both South Africans.
“The ancestors will reward Buti for what he has done today,” said his 62-year-old mother, Francinah, whose family name used to be Makunyane.
Now she is a proud member of the Mphethi family. But it wasn’t an easy decision for Buti Mphethi from Slovo Park near Siyabuswa, Mpumalanga. When the ancestors first told him to marry his own mother he flatly refused, and that’s when his troubles began. The problem was that his father never paid lobola for his mother and so she was never married and fully accepted into the family.
Buti said: “My ancestors came to me in a dream while I was a student at the Tshwane University of Technology in 2003. I heeded the call to become a sangoma. But when they came up with the idea that I should marry my own mother, I flatly refused.”
Buti then took his own wife. But in the four years of their marriage, she could not give him a child. He also could not sleep peacefully as bad dreams kept him awake every night. Then, without any explanation, his wife left him. His younger brother’s marriage also didn’t work out and his wife left him as well. That was when the two brothers realised that they had to heed the ancestors’ instructions or they would never be happy.
So on Saturday, Buti tied the knot with his mother, Francinah Makunyane. He gave his “in-laws” two cows, and spent R14 000 on the wedding alone.
“I’m glad that I have finally appeased my ancestors and ensured that my mother is formally accepted in the family. She is now an Mphethi, as she should have been long ago,” he said.
Buti’s parents separated 15 years ago. His father, William Mphethi, currently has four wives. Buti’s mum Francinah said she was very happy because she never believed that she would ever get married and be an Mphethi.
“I am old and getting married was something that I forgot about a long time ago. But the ancestors will reward Buti for what he has done today,” she said.